Riding Because I Can - Riding Because I Need To
FYC - $%#@ YOU CANCER!!!
MY STORY - PART 11 (2 rides previous to the RTCC, 8 RTCC, missed one in 2012 due to blood clots)
I dedicate my ride this year to my good friend, Laura Ball (you will read about her in a bit). Laura like me - cares, is stubborn, would do anything for anyone, juggles many balls, loves life!! These are only 5 reasons why I need to ride, why I ask for your support and why I say FYC!!! Laura and family - be strong, cry, laugh, live and ask for support as needed. As Laura sent me two pics to me via her brother who adores her and has a sense of humour - "I told you kick cancer right in the penis" and then got a tattoo on his leg - F%*K Cancer - Embrace Life). Gotta love a brother like that!!
I have been meaning to update this and send it out to friends, family and supporters. I wrote a few pages a few months ago and never put it into this blog/profile (still need to find it). Everyday the story of life and cancer changes.
Today was a great day - on vacation, building a fence (ok the one blip); readying for my baby daughter (now 18) heading off to university in Septmember; my baby son almost 16, a giant and preparing for lacrosse provincials this weekend; Marsha still tolerating me with my many habits - good and bad; oh yeah and my three year old puppy Nova who shows me daily the meaning of unconditional love. Friends, family, neighbours and colleagues who CARE!!
Also, a ride this morning - gotta still get more miles in - been a little busy.
These all relate to the "theme" of SURVIVOR GLADNESS!!
Now is the "theme" of SURVIVOR SADNESS!!
The other part of my day was a great dinner with Wayne Okamura and his wonderful family (my friend, my dentist, hockey buddy) - remember him, I DO, it was probably due to his referral (after many missed diagnoses) to Dr. Tim Kalla that saved my life 10 years ago. Also, at dinner was Kate Tobin and her four wonderful daughters as well as my family. Wayne, Charles Tobin (Kate's husband and the father to the four beautiful daughters) and I played hockey back in the day for the mighty Jumbo Jets (too many ex-Winnipeg guys on that team).
As i write this I know it is sooo important to be honest and the dinner and visit was wonderful but it brings me great SADNESS realizing the devestation of cancer to families and communities. I do not think I live with SURVIVOR GUILT but I realize the deck of cards we are dealt sometimes involves a great deal of luck. Remember years back, I talked of being a LUCKY MAN and I stole that from the book by Micheal J. Fox.
In honour of Dave Colonval, he died - I lived, I have to acknowledge that I feel very fortunate today to be on the "right side of the dirt". His death in 2011, 4.5 years after the same diagnosis still humbles me today. I remember vividly our first meeting at a Starbuck's in Ladner. Dave - keep being the trickster.
I want to share this again this year. This was written by Kate Tobin. She lost her husband (Charles/Chuck) in December 2014, widowed with four lovely daughters, (you all know that) and she offered this. I DO NOT NEED ANY OTHER REASON TO RIDE AND ASK FOR YOUR SUPPORT
“People used to talk about six degrees of separation. (You have just revealed your age if you said six degrees of Kevin Bacon). In today's world it is an unfortunate fact that cancer doesn't have six degrees of separation. We have all been touched by cancer. Everyone has a list of those they have loved that have suffered the invasion of cancer.
Cancer is not one disease but rather many and its victims are not limited to geography or race or religion or sex or any other distinction. The reaction to cancer is always the same. You sit in a doctor’s office or a hospital and you hear the word cancer and then there is a buzzing in your head and you know the doctor is still talking but your mind is racing. They say in death you see your life flash before your eyes but when the doctor says cancer I know for sure your life flashes before your eyes.
Cancer is the uncontrolled growth of a single cell and the cure from cancer will only come with an uncontrolled growth of research dollars. It all comes down to one. We start as a single cell and can be destroyed by a single cell. So the question is what one does in between. Major advances have been made and must continue to be made. Please start with one dollar to destroy one single rogue cell.
We support Ron because one day we hope that there will be no ride to conquer cancer because it will be like smallpox where the vaccination left a scar but a whole generation of children have no idea what the disease is. We are already living with the scar cancer has left in our lives.” (K. Tobin, July 2016)
SURVIVOR MADNESS - this comes from me hearing about new cancer diagnoses. Hits home close again this year - TODAY!! My good friends Alvin and Scott are visiting their Dad giving support as he goes through treatment, my neighbour who just had surgery two weeks ago and our good friend Laura who just had her second round of chemo last week. There is talk of a year of treatment ahead. She is a friend, a weekend warrior like me - we did swim training to stay alive during our triathlon days - she is a swimmer, I am a sinker - cement legs and not very buoyant missing my big toe.
In with the MADNESS there is SADNESS, it is difficult to sit on the sideline trying to be supportive and wishing all the fears could be erased, the questions answered and that any stress (physical, mental, and/or financial) could be eliminated.
The Ride to Conquer Cancer benefiting BC Cancer Foundation, is a two-day cycling journey, from Vancouver to Seattle on August 26-27, 2017.
Thank you in advance for your support.
I ride proudly in PINK (trying to remember to run, jump, bounce, dance, sing, love, smile, ride) to honour FINN Sullivan and his family and friends as Team Finn rides each year to Seattle to “change the story” and remember a 3 year old boy. FYC!! Team Finn is another family of love and support. They welcome anyone and are the biggest supporters of others in the ride and to those living with cancer.
I know I may miss people here (and can add them if you send me a text/email)?
I ride for Arnold Crosby, Eric Pouwels, Steve Parker, Penny Barr, Ryder Brockett, Susanne S, Ian Forsyth, Cheryl Burton, Brenda Szabo, Sean Gilbert, Cameron Heryot, Ron Burgess, Vanessa Murray, Doris Fundy, Lorraine Klassen, Susan Mott, Bruce Grimes, Martin Ellis-White, and Inge Michaelis. Need I say it again, “FYC”!!
For the past two years, I have worn a white t-shirt under my jersey. On the back were those living with cancer. Marsha (with better printing) transcribed the names - I had their back and they had mine. On the front (close to my heart) were those close to me who had died from cancer. Unfortunately, there are people to add to both sides this year again. Would be wonderful to ride next year and not have add anyone to either side.
Pam Chace, Hans Kaltenegger, Gus Yep, and Saxon Shuttleworth – I have your back and more (as do all the other people who love you). Thanks to the BC Cancer Agency for giving you HOPE, support and care. KUDOS to the BCCA but we can all still say, “FYC”
Although, they may not be here with us, I ride for my Dad, Dave Kee and my co-workers infant daughter, Lucy. It is not just cancer that brings us sadness and loss. Dad, and Lucy, be well!!
My own special thanks goes out to Patrick - thanks for welcoming me, thanks for caring and for this I will continue to do my part to help "conquer cancer one bead at a time"!!!
I ride because I CAN - I ride because it sometimes hurts and it makes me feel alive and remember the pain I have endured and the pain of many others (this is something from my 2009 Personal Page may it guide me NOW and ALWAYS and give others HOPE)
Sometimes in conversation with people they don't think that research dollars are making a difference - I BELIEVE they are and will and I encourage each of us to BELIEVE. Please support me in any way you can. I appreciate your stories and well wishes (I know we are inundated with requests for support). Please help me reach my minimum of $2,500.
One last time – FYC!!
CHEERS - Ron (aka Toeless in Tsawwassen)
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